Work Life Balance – 90 min Whiteboard Session

how to achieve work-life balance they see people that are high-performing that are very skewed towards work and they also see some people have seemingly like that amazing lifestyle where they can travel live as a digital nomad but it seems like what are they doing to make money how are they getting their work part in order and the reason why i chose the icon of the unicorn was because it seems like this elusive thing that we're all trying to achieve and get to some state in our life but is it possible or is it some figment of our imagination and i want to challenge this thought so i i just want to ask all of you and i'm joined today by a bunch of future pro members for a live recording of this so you may hear their voices so what do you guys think is it possible to achieve work-life balance i certainly hope so do you think that it's possible is it within your grasp in your reach i want to believe that yes and gio where are you calling in from today i'm from mexico man okay do people there have a good work-life balance no i don't i don't know anybody that have have that uh unicorn status okay so you don't know anybody at all no okay only only on social media and all this mountain valley the the future people yeah all the fake people right including the future people no no no no i get it well see here's the thing i'm going to take a poll here of the people who are watching this live with us the question for you is do you know anybody that's achieved perfect work-life balance in your real life that you can verify not from afar because you know how it is geo you watch people on instagram on youtube they present to you the best parts of their life and they don't show you the dark side the downside right so i just want to throw it out to you do you currently anybody you can show me by raise of your hand like i have achieved perfect work-life balance paul has okay um let's see here tom have you raised your hand for that tom young tom just turned 19 years old he's already achieved work-life balance is amazing he's way ahead of all of us we should just all throw ourselves off a bridge right now okay and kashna she's she's achieved it and then michael has also achieved it okay so but i know someone that has oh you know someone that has perfect okay and when cash now i want to talk to you specifically right now you said you know someone who has is it a lot of people that have or just like one person it's one person and she has different team members within her company and she figured out how to sell like business information and she figured out also how to get money through like affiliate marketing and all these different selling courses okay we'll circle back to that in a second before we do that i have to do something off my jacket because it's freaking hot in the studio you guys hold on i'll be right back look at this i'm already sweating okay so if i start glistening you guys know it's because it's hot in here and i have to do this conversation or this whiteboard session okay so kesha knows someone who sells information affiliate marketing the the interesting thing is when i ask you do you know someone who's achieved work-life balance we didn't even go through and define what that means yeah so it's kind of up to each and every one of you to figure out what work-life balance is so question back to you what what criteria did you were you using to determine this well the criteria that i was using was i don't know i guess seeing how much time she has on her hands like free time yeah free time is how much time she actually works how much free time does she have how much money is she making or what kind of life is she living can you put it into like little bullet points for me so i can just write it down we had to look at a number of criteria to determine this person has optimum work-life balance so let's just talk about free time right so we're going to say because the word work and life are in here there's a ratio here that you think are optimal the average american theoretically works 40 hours a week so in your mind how many hours should somebody be working to achieve optimal work-life balance okay so somebody can work 30 hours a lot of us can work 30 hours so there has to be one other criteria involved in here how much money do they need to make for me chris it's relative to the person yes it is it depends on people's lifestyles and the situation they're in in their own life um as well for me you know if i was assessing this i'd be thinking well when i wake up in the morning i'm not thinking oh i've gotta go to work today you know that i enjoy going i enjoy doing my job so that is sort of life in a way for me that's sort of i suppose how i feel i'm in that good position that's perfect so michael is saying that you have to be able to love this work because if you work 30 hours a week and make a ton of money but you hate the work uh we don't think that is work life balance right so that was a great ad there we're still missing one more component at least in terms of figuring this equation out 30 hours a week how much money does this person do you need to make in order to feel like that's a that's a good thing because you could love your job we'll only work 30 hours a week or even less but not make enough money so things are going to be out of balance again what would you guys say what's the numbers just throw out a number anybody ricky says a hundred thousand anybody else going once 170 000. 170 is so precise now cash thank you very much uh do i have another bidder 170 going once 300 though 300 000 who's saying that yeah oh my god all right 300 300. okay so let's just do this really quickly by a show of hands if you could work 30 hours a week doing something that filled you with purpose and joy and you earned 300 000 annually would that feel like you're getting really close to work-life balance raise your hand okay a bunch of hands went up oh my god there's some ballers in this room because muhammad's like no that's not enough for me i need more i need more if you can only work 30 hours a week muhammad and make 300 000 you're like that's not enough talk to me oh no i i thought that you know we just stopped at that and you know not not consider earning more so we should aim for higher fuse okay he wants more you could say i want more it's totally okay all right just work less and make less work less make less okay thank you paul for that ad okay i'm gonna put a number on the board because of how this this game works right so we're gonna say earning 300 000 so people watching this later are going to freak the f out i'm just letting you know send your lovely emails to muhammad not to me i didn't say this number he wants more and paul's saying you know what i would rather work less and make less but this is a dream scenario because we're chasing a unicorn paul can i make the assumption if you do work that you love and work less but actually make more wouldn't that be the ideal scenario i think that's the dream that's that's the goal and that's what we should do we should aspire always to do the work that we love first that's the condition of a work-life balance and then we should aspire to then work less while making more maximize our earning potential so that we have what i think of the whole point of all of this stuff have the maximum amount of free time to do whatever it is that you want play baseball exercise not exercise binge watch hang out with the kids have no kids travel the world stay in your room it doesn't matter but you want freedom so we want to work less i think that's a dream well while this is the trick earning more perfect we can all work less and make less and so then we start to feel that it's out of balance because our life needs more and we're not there okay now having said this is anybody here working less than 30 hours hours while earning more than 300 000 good raise your hand i'm going to be very patient here okay danae today okay you did you say 170 denae was that you no i said 300 000. oh you said 300 you're the 300 girl okay okay anybody here really close to get into that still silent maybe we're in the right place at the right time then who knows all right let's keep getting into this all right so we have some criteria now uh who was it it was keshna keshna is your friend earning more than 300 000 working less than 30 hours a week yes okay now here's the thing um you guys know i'm a comic books fan and there's a character his name is jamie madrox he's the what is it multiple man all he has to do is hit his head and he duplicates himself so jamie sends his clones out to do things for him and as a kid that was my fantasy just duplicate myself hey you do the chores you go and help dad you mow the lawn and i'm gonna sit here and play video games you do my homework it's all gonna work out perfectly now in real life is it possible for us to duplicate ourselves to multiply ourselves what do you think anybody have an idea on this that's you times infinity is it possible delegate the job delegate the job yes but if you didn't have other people to help you that's a good answer though by the way thank you very much he said delegate is it possible to duplicate yourself no not really right or maybe or maybe i think if you put out courses if you duplicate your knowledge and then resell it aha oh wait a minute okay so we can't be at two places at one time but if somehow we can replicate ourselves if we can replicate ourselves in some fashion it won't be the same but some version of ourselves can go and work for us and the simplest way of doing that is for example if you were to take a photograph and it was an amazing photograph that a whole lot of people wanted to buy you can sell that photograph and not have to be there to take it time and time again so in a way you're duplicating your efforts and your energy and the byproduct of the things that you make the things that you know can be used to earn money for you this is where we get into like the passive income land if you use the money that you've acquired over time and put it into an investment property whether it be cryptocurrency real estate or some other commodities you can then use that money to work for you if you invest wisely there's always downside to that so we're always looking for an investment that has high upside potential while minimizing downside potential that makes sense right okay this is not a conversation about how to do that just yet but i want you to start thinking about it so that was a great conversation thank you very much for participating with me there okay let's get back to the subject at hand here when we're talking about work-life balance the reason why this is so problematic is first of all we have 24 hours in a day so let's just do some math together let's just say as recommended by many doctors at minimum you need eight hours of sleep so we're going to take the 24 we're going to minus eight hours right so that's for sleeping now i know many of you including myself do not get eight hours of sleep so in an ideal world we're gonna say this is ideal ideally okay eight hours of sleep you gotta eat lunch so we're gonna minus an hour for lunch and you're gonna eat dinner dinner's gonna take a little bit longer than lunch and theoretically you're gonna work for eight hours that's the standard work week hopefully i don't go over my hours allotted here and you have to commute to work let's say that takes you an hour to commute like you take the train or or you drive into work or whatever so we're going to say that's round trip because i don't want to get too complicated here you have to get ready for work you got to shower shave put your face on let's take off another hour there for prep so far we have no leisure time we're eating we're going to work we're sleeping so let's count up the numbers here that work and sleep was already taking up 16 hours 18 19 20 21 so we only have three hours of quote unquote free time that's not a lot of time in the day am i missing something is something glaringly like missing here from anybody okay now if we have relationships if we if we waste a little bit of time we're done for okay so we have three hours of free time is that enough to get done what you need to get done in life to work out to cook dinner to spend some quality time with your partner with your spouse with your children with your pets to do your chores not enough time so what happens is these two concepts for it to remain balanced are in opposition with one another they're opposing one another there's a little talk with simon sinek when somebody asks him about work-life balance he goes you know i don't like this idea i don't even like that term work-life balance because he says you have to then choose which one you want you want to work or you want to live more what is the deal and he says these two things have to live in harmony and our ability to fluidly move between work and life is where the secret sauce is now i heard someone else say this where they said what happens if you just get rid of work just live like if you take a sabbatical or a couple of years off what you discover well you're going to find out really quickly you're running out of money and i also have heard this before i don't have this validated just yet but people who retire from work who no longer show up who no longer have a purpose a utility in life their lifespan shortens a lot and i believe that's why i think it's in okinawa there's no such concept as retiring whatever it is that you do you do until you can't do it anymore and they're some of the most long-lived people on planet earth they're in the blue zone so there's something idea about this and we'll dig into a little bit deeper also like can your life impact your work what if you got into a big fight or you're going through a divorce is that going to impact this so these are not necessarily separate concepts but we have to have a different view of this but this is kind of how most people talk about an ideal work life and we can see even in this ideal thing where it's this or that or if we take more time for work we're taking away from something that's part of the zero-sum concept right if we take one extra hour here plus one hour we then lose one hour over here and what are we gonna do what most of us do we take it from here which is not healthy and so we keep stealing from here so that we can pay for spending more time with our life or spending more time at work and i think most people have experienced something like this now just out of curiosity too how many of you guys are getting a solid eight hours of sleep every single night raise your hand who's saying that ricky yeah of course ricky ricky goes to bed at 7 p.m only arleigh who else yeah not all two other people have raised their hand okay lower hand so that means that i presume you're not getting more than eight hours you're getting less than eight hours right so we're stealing from something and this is going to affect our long-term health and i think our mood so these ideas oppose each other it's forcing us to choose should i do more of this or more of that and sometimes we we feel like we have no choice so we're going to work some of you are in a put or in a position where you're the primary breadwinner the primary income source and so this idea can't even be entertained because we have to focus on this and what we're doing right now as many of us are we're working more while not making more especially in some markets in some industries there's a lot of downward pressure and the labor force is really getting bigger and bigger and more interconnected with marketplaces that then it becomes even more challenging to earn a decent living doing what it is that you do all right so i'm going to ask this question of you why do we work what is it that we get from work like why not just live our life and forget about work the obvious answers are usually the best now you can unmute and say whatever you want to know i'll be your notetaker why do we work somebody tell me to feel full of purpose okay give us options options when you say options what does that mean paul well when when you make enough money you get more options okay like freedom choices yeah like how would you use your freedom if you had more of it um more time with family okay family time grow our career and reputation okay we work to be of service okay of service oh okay is that about uh legacy too yeah probably it's like the how the world is and how you want the world to be change that we want to make yes so it's definitely a legacy yes anything else experiences oh experiences yeah okay that's good yeah that's kind of obvious isn't it i'm surprised it took us this long to say the big m word money everybody else is working just for fun for experience for the resume yeah you got to get you got to make some of that cheddar for money because it's fun what sick individual said that what is your name and i'll send you some work i know i'm just messing around with you yeah some people have fun at work i don't know who those people are but yeah okay some people have fun i imagine if you're a professional sports player ricky if you were an uh mlb player you'd be like yeah that's pretty good until you have to win the game then it's not fun anymore yeah until it's all on you i think tom had said earlier purpose and fulfillment so we'll write fulfillment up here now if you had more freedom more freedom you might choose the travel right so you want to spend more time with family and these aren't mutually exclusive so you can spend more family time traveling which would be awesome we some some of us go to work is we want more things want a bigger house to put we'll have more space to put more things in that house there's a comedy routine here that i'm aware of but uh so we want things anything else yeah to prove maslow was correct okay is that ian prove maslow so we'll write maslow here i'm running out of space on my whiteboard maslow yeah okay i think it's how we're wired we need something to do we do if you paul if you travel around the equator the attitude there's a little bit different right along the equator just enjoy life you know we don't really need we do just enough work to make it work but not more than that uh but you're saying we're hardwired right we're hardwired we need it and i guess it ties back into purpose i think yeah i think so we're not just working because we want to work we want to work as we want to make it count to help others solve their problems perfect if you have freedom maybe you choose to help other people to save for retirement yes retirement okay perfect some people work so that they can give their kids a head start right it's true so i'm gonna do that for legacy right there i'll put that under legacy to give your children a leg up to send them to better schools uh to be able to have enough money to invest in their first business how would that feel like if you were just 21 years old or 22 years old graduating school graduating college and then you say to your parents i have this idea i'm going to connect people they're going to talk and they're going to share it's kind of like this like a photo album but and your parents had money to invest in you and you were able to launch that that would be really cool all right i think this is pretty good i don't think we're missing anything now just out of curiosity if you can only pick one of these things as to the main reason why you work what would you say it is anybody want to say it money okay thank you for keeping it real money okay okay so money affords you the options right right so we we can't work for options we work for money to then theoretically have options and this is a critical idea because if you make the money and you don't use it for what it's meant to do which is to provide you options then you've missed the entire point if you make money and you don't use it to get help so that you can spend more time doing the things that no one else can do then you're not using your money well so i think this is probably tied to that what else why else would you work what's the number two answer then things things okay if you make money you can get things so that's kind of under the umbrella of money okay i i like this purpose feels pretty good to me purpose lifestyle lifestyle's not even on the board tom you're fired no ego geez okay no i ego legacy okay i'm okay this is perfect this is good so now we get into the kind of second and third tier this is good and each person can pull away something i want you to start thinking about this as to why you work okay perfect let's go into life like if we don't if we didn't have to work what would we do let's just say now for some reason you're you're in the future program and now you just learn how to make a ton of money you don't know what to do with yourself just like a trunk a truck dumps all this cash on your lawn you're like wow i don't have to work anymore what should i do so what would you do we've covered some of these things but let's get into it travel travel travel spend time with family family time right yeah i'm not being in general somebody said they'd be in jail did i hear that right okay so exercise ricky is like i gotta keep the bot gone you gotta do it supporting the community and philanthropy community philanthropy yeah right perfect uh philanthropy uh optimized so like higher like cleaners and stuff so you don't have to do the tedious tasks of every day camera you already have all the free time you could do whatever you don't need to optimize anymore yeah but you still got to do like life things right no you don't that's what you know what if i gave you a billion dollars tomorrow you don't you know like what i got to do i just you do it and then you do that you know i don't want to brush i want to make so much money i'm going to pay somebody brush my teeth sometimes i'm so tired like you brush my teeth for me i'm going to hire a professional hygienist and just that that's what the whole point of the money is for so don't optimize anymore your pass optimization you're still on the previous slide so let's what do we do with all this free time and all the choices what else can we do family i heard family what else compete compete yeah competition who are you going to compete against um just i don't know i think that uh one of the things that i've been doing i just started doing jiu jitsu and um i don't know and there's something about it just oh okay primitive about it that like i get you worry about anything just well right and that it doesn't have to be just that but just anything competition like i don't know right hold on who's talking i don't see your name oh this is christian christian christian is talking about something that's important to all of us personal development that's what he's talking about right he wants to grow now that he has all this time he can do whatever he wants so he's gonna work on getting his third degree black belt in bjj he's gonna win the bjj world tournament or something like that these are goals he wants to constantly grow so part of your personal development leads you to growth and that's really important for all of us and i think that's why when people stop working and they don't find something else they start dying and i find this to be just anecdotally true where when men retire they have a hard time transitioning back into quote unquote civilian life because they had no hobbies they're just busy working and when women retire because they've been keeping themselves busy with lots of different things they seem like my mom has so many activities she's like taking care of her plans she's learning new recipes she's like learning how to sew she's drawing and painting my dad just sits there and reads the newspaper that's all he's got so i'm worried about him i'm really worried about him okay so let's keep going here all right what else we got i would invest in people to get them to the same place as i am so is that philanthropy or helping others teaching can i write down teaching i like teaching you know how i feel about that okay and then is it gilo yeah i was about to say the same help others okay that we'll put that in there help others under philanthropy right help others right now that you've achieved success you can help other people i like that a lot um and then i don't see your name jazz of course jazz um spirituality express spiritual life religion right it's perfect i'm glad you said that jazz and that could mean any way that you want to interpret that right all right tom last one add something is it just me or is anybody else also thinking about real estate he wants to make more money this guy i mean it's not necessarily only money right yeah you want the land too you want your fight he wants an army he wants a land okay let's do it he wants real estate spoken like a true billionaire how about learning and acquiring more knowledge that's under personal development but yes i'm going to write learning here yes i wish i could live 10 lifetimes because i still want to learn i'm i'm afraid i would not have enough time to learn everything i want to learn okay optimize happiness but isn't that all of this yeah it is all of this yeah but you know sometimes people get confused and they think that money equals happiness that is very true and we've already said you don't have to worry about money anymore so the only thing we can do now is do things that make you happy so ian on that note what makes you happy is there anything on this list that we're missing you know the the small things that make you happy but i think you've got it covered okay we never said time with friends times with friends yes friends absolutely your friends will be working though so but you know what if you're a really generous person you're like you know what i got you this week come hang out with me maybe there's real estate right there man yeah anybody else i think we're missing one hobbies hobbies i like that more hobbies okay yeah we're missing one here aren't we be a leader be a leader yeah for who who you're going to lead what's that let the other people to the better place or the same place you are oh okay that's under teach isn't it teach and lead oh yeah yeah i think we're missing one go ahead how about to be entertained to be entertained how are you entertained so like a live event sports i'm going to see live sports or yes uh music right right so i'm going to have fun is that okay however that works for you now famous do you wanna be famous okay all right whatever gets you gives you joy it's fine uh fame all right this is pretty good so if we skew all the way over here you know things we're gonna lose some things on the other side but this is pretty good let's keep going the problem as i've said earlier with work and life balance is it feels like when we're at work we're robbing from life and when we're at home living our life we're neglecting work the thing that affords us our life and i think this is a terrible position to be put in so this is why jim rohn tells the story uh when you're at work be at work do your work and he tells the story of a of a man who's thinking about his kids and his his wife so he he grabs his briefcase shoves it in with his paperwork and he leaves work a couple hours early so instead of working eight hours he works five hours and on his drive home he's glad to see his wife and his kids and they're playing and they're doing stuff they might be even watching netflix and he's sitting here thinking i still have all this paperwork to do i need to do this so he's not actually fully there because he's sitting there but his mind is somewhere else maybe you guys have done that once or twice in your life or maybe that was just yesterday and so we're not there and so then he's not fully present with his wife his family and his children and then they go to bed and he's back working from home now tired only to repeat that entire cycle again and again and get caught up in that loop jim's idea jim rohn's idea his suggestion is when you're at work just be at work don't get interrupted by oh i gotta send my wife a picture about this or that or talk to her about what we're having for dinner because that doesn't allow you to perform at work so then that deficit of not getting your work done drags on over into your personal and family life and it goes on and on and on and i don't like it because it says if we choose one we take away from the other and it being binary means i have to make compromise i have to give up something in order to get something that creates all that internal conflict so this is why i personally don't love this concept of work-life balance i would prefer something else so i sat down and thought about the three things that i think make up work and i have this three letter acronym mfp it's kind of like mvp and i'll i'll let you guess what the m stands for everyone what does m stand for money thank you we already said money so you guys are so smart that's why you're pro it's the future pro group and not the future amateur group money money is m what is i'll give you a guess as to what the p is purpose you are paying attention thank you very much somebody does well on their scts i think purpose beautiful okay this is good and what is f stand for for at work fulfillment who said that who said that harley arley you know you get your golden star right there early boom fulfillment this is how i've broken it down okay now i'm not telling you i'm the boss of you so you write down whatever you want but i like to keep it clear let me tell you why i think the main reason why we work for a period of time is to make money to afford us the freedom the choices the options the things the house the real estate the optimization the delegation all that that's what the money does for you why do i say fulfillment because work has to be fulfilling to you you have to feel like you're growing that you're learning and sometimes when it's so fulfilling it feels like fun but this is all about you right now money for me and my family my loved ones fulfillment for me personally my kids can't feel that but i can feel it purpose is about how this helps and impacts other people other than me so when we talk about this and i want you to think about in your own life in your own work right now i'll give you an example from me you tell me how it hits you okay i did i made commercials i made uh tv ads right i made music videos so let me see how this maps okay and then i want you to start writing down how this maps for you okay i made tv ads and music videos for almost 25 years of my life the majority of my adult life has been spent making things to make money and for the most part is how i made all of my money practically is by doing this so for sure it checks off on the money thing and since i went to school to learn design and i fell in love with motion graphics and i got to direct commercials and music videos i got to animate things i got to work with some really talented people it did give me a lot of fulfillment did it fill me with purpose did i really help others did i contribute to society was i serving others i don't think so i served my client and that's why they paid me money but that doesn't count because that's what you got paid to do so beyond the money that's exchanged between you and someone what did you do okay so that's me for 25 years now the second part of my life is when i was teaching how did this work so i taught for 15 years before i stopped teaching for other people and i started this school or the future okay so let's change colors here how did teaching contribute to all this well teaching i hardly made any money and you've heard this before i pay people more than i get paid so there's something wrong with that does it give me fulfillment and joy for sure sharing helping other people i feel alive i feel electric i feel like i'm using all of my brain i get to tell jokes and make fun of myself that works out well for me and is it purposeful am i contributing to society am i being of service other people heck yeah i feel that so these two things that i did for work combined gave me what i wanted so i want you just think to yourself right now ask yourself am i getting this from the work that i'm doing and if not i want you to start thinking about what kind of work should you be doing so that you can get more of this now it's quite sad because one of the biggest things that we say is if you're going to work your work is to make money that was the number one priority so if you're working right now and you're not making money the rest of stuff starts falling apart this affords this but they have to work in unison in harmony with each other okay anybody have any questions about this before i move on to the next slide it's it's always the dilemma where they say you know we all know that we're doing it for money but it's always a dilemma of like oh when you're starting a business don't worry about money money will come but at what point do you like especially at the beginning when money is slow yeah so when we say that and i've heard this before and i've said it myself that when you're first getting out of school and you're you just learn something don't focus on money as the primary driver as to why you should work somewhere let it be about fulfillment and purpose and personal development because ultimately you will be paid for what it is that you know and know how to do there's that quote that says if you do more than what you get paid for eventually you'll be paid more than what you do so this is critical so if you go for a job that in the short term promises a lot of money but you're not getting all the fulfillment in terms of personal growth and adding skill sets and filling in the gaps of knowledge then you're only taking a short-term win and you're going to pay for it in a long-term loss i think that's what they're saying each one of us has a different timetable and has different criteria as to what we would consider fulfillment and you need to think about that okay now we know this you could sell mattresses and feel like it's a dead-end job and then one day you're the mattress king you could do that and this happens you know and there there are people who have been able to figure out their station in life and really scale up really fast now if you told me the the key to having a multi-billion dollar global brand was to make a pretty good cup of coffee i'd laugh at you i didn't stop howard schultz from doing that so each person has their own criteria and do not let someone else tell you this is the plan that might be a plan for them it might be a plan for a different time place and era but you have to have your own plan all right so let's talk about life the three components of life what is this all about i'm going to help you because i'm struggling myself to remember what no no i don't know i know i know what it is i'm just messing around i'm getting c now my old age okay the pss life the three parts that i can think of and and this was a struggle so if you find a different way of uh labeling this it's totally okay just get in along with the concept the first p of life is people the second uh letter s is for self and the third one is spirit and i'll talk about what these mean to me and then we can expand on it for what it might mean to you so when it comes to people uh this is you know everybody that you care about uh could be your spouse parents for some some people can't stand their parents that's okay uh your children and if you don't have children that's okay too because some of you have pets there's no judgment here and then you have friends and colleagues and you have community these are all the relationships that you have and even strangers because we want to meet new people siblings extended family all those people so i'm just going to put everybody else under this big giant umbrella term of family and family does not have to be blood relation just anybody you define as family okay the self this is really important and once you make the money and you have some free time we talked about personal development so self is body is important to ricky mind your body and your mind what do you do to take care of yourself uh whatever whether that's a massage for some of you it's a mental massage you want to read a book or you want to go to a lecture spend your free time listening to some idiot on a whiteboard you could spend your time however you want but you want to work on self many of us neglect self and self could just be sleeping being able to get a good night's sleep in so that you feel renewed and refreshed when you wake up sit back in a meditative state ivy okay spirit spirit this could be religious but let's just say so that this doesn't get about religion or faith it's like how do you feel are you in good spirits are you in bad spirits and the things that give you joy for a lot of you it would be faith for some someone else it might be to go on adventures uh to do to have like boys night out girls night out whatever it is to lift your spirits it doesn't have to be just about faith but it's about how what kind of word should we use to describe that joadaviv yeah something like that whatever fills you with joy when we need to do more of what gives us joy and less of what doesn't so we'll call this part i don't i didn't do it on the other one but we're going to call all of this life so you know i'm trying to stay within the theme of work life balance so your life consists of the people you know the relationships you build how strong they are how you show up for them how they show for you the strength of those bonds determines i think a big part of your happiness and if you just do that all the time though and you don't take care of the self you're going to find out that you ultimately start to resent these people and you only have so much to give because you'll start to burn out so we have to make sure that these are in harmony and then there's something beyond our body in our mind whatever else and each person is going gonna have their own little thing that fills you with joy for me it's reading comics it's spending time with my my son um sometimes it's going for a walk or a hike i love to be on the water even though i'm not a good swimmer that's why i love to be on the water not in the water so whatever gives you joy okay now i want to talk a little bit about what happens in the old model when we try to find this balance so we can't seem to get the balance when we focus too much on work we lose a part of our life in the old model when we focus too much on life we lose out on work so let's talk a little bit about the trade-offs let's just say because i think many of you are in this boat probably almost everybody that's watching this video is you're spending too much on work we're spending too much time here we have to get that back in balance but let's just talk about the trade-offs what happens when you disproportionately spend your time on work there's a label they call you they call you a workaholic they also sometimes call you perfectionist sometimes they call you anal retentive or a micromanager you can't let things go everything matters to you all the time so what happens what happens to our life what's the consequence when we focus too much on work and we're starting to lose a bit of the life burnout perfect thank you ricky okay what else relationships suffer yeah i'll just say divorce okay paul i'm just going to go right for it i would think even children relationship with your children absolutely so we'll call that absentee parenting mentally stressed stress health your health yeah poor health absolutely that's why ricky's always in the gym health and he wants to get his beauty rest it's how the young stay young okay what else so we're neglecting our life what happens when we neglect our life i think joy peace okay joy and peace i think we we lose touch with our friends and what happens is they say we are going growing distant you can even talk about like poor hygiene because of that we're not even talking about getting ripped or anything you're starting to fall apart and you're going to age prematurely age quickly i also think you get regrets and because you can't turn the clock back yeah on your deathbed you're gonna have a lot of regrets that you didn't do more of what gave you joy it's a good list let's flip it let's go to the other side now okay so when you focus all on life and you start calling in sick you actually just quit because you don't like it it's too stressful at work right it's just too much for me what happens to you then what are the trade-offs here on this side when you focus too much on life and you're neglecting your responsibilities at work i know people like this by the way you become financially stressed yeah so let's go all the way to the extreme you're gonna go bankrupt okay you may be seen as a pariah in your society because you're creating stress for your family and you're supposed to be out there making money your kids may feel ashamed that they have a deadbeat parent what else happens um you you'll feel useless yeah i think there will be a point where you feel like you have no purpose yes no purpose oh yeah some people get bored yeah yeah good one bored lack of uh self uh feeling of accomplishment well what's that what's that word like how do what's the word there's a word for this unaccomplished there we go what is a word that sounds like a lack of unaccomplished yeah oh there you go there you go ricky with the big l word you're a loser you might feel like that okay arley children disrespects parents who do not achieve anything who cannot provide okay that's good so ashamed and disrespected you know i know people who grew up poor who parents didn't seem to have much motivation ambition and drive and they were ashamed they were embarrassed they really were it's like why are we always like eating in the cheap restaurant and we never go out my friends are talking about the new bmx bicycle they got for whatever you know you guys i'm looking at you and your faces right now i know you know what i'm talking about you're like damn it you know this is like the david chappelle joke he's like you know people think i grew up poor i didn't my parents did all right they did a right to moving us into neighborhoods that were white so i could feel poor they did just well enough for me to feel poor in other neighborhoods and so yeah sometimes you know that can impact the psyche of your children uh what else you know what you might be like you know what let's just call it maybe some of you are just like i don't have a job i'm going to live at home freeloader you're going to be a freeloader the 40 year old virgin right there freeloader also not a good role model i know people who made a lot of money and stop working early but they weren't setting the right example for their kids and they eventually went back to work just to kind of reinforce what it you know what it means to work for their kids absolutely i think in time you could lose empathy um you can kind of become this ivory tower mindset yeah uh lose empathy okay and also there is no future okay we'll miss work opportunities yeah i think when you're not working you're going to miss work opportunities that's for sure no lack of opportunities okay that's pretty good have we missed one disorganized stay in bed too long yeah maybe yeah unmotivated lethargic and disorganized confidence you lose your confidence oh yeah okay that's a good one oh yeah depression is a big one okay i think that's good enough we got the big ones in there came in strong at the end do you think divorce could also be part of that because there's no money there's always the the money issue you know what arleigh you speak like a knowledgeable well-educated woman yeah i just imagine what my wife how'd you look at me like aren't you supposed to bring home the bacon i'm like what bacon i'm gonna just take a 10-year vacation she's like you know what we're done divorce lack of self-worth self-worth self-esteem self-reliance all those words that begin with self look at that all those words that begin with self look at that hey maybe i knew something maybe i thought about this for a minute just a minute though okay pretty good those are the trade-offs i think the solution is instead of looking at it as either or and that's the way we've been looking at this you either have this or you have that that expression you can have your cake but you can't eat it so it's either this or that but really i think what it is is we need to kind of find that sweet spot between a and b that becomes abba so there we are we're trying to look for the overlap so we're almost there everyone so the way that we achieve the overlap is instead of looking at this like balancing and trade-offs and compromise and conflict we try to find something from one side and we throw it to the other side we're going to try to blend these two things together so is there a way that we can make money while building stronger relationships i don't know just going to ask that question right now is there things that we can do for personal self-development that actually pay us money you see how this goes so you're going to start to ask yourself these questions how do we blur the lines how do we blend this together to make some kind of a hybrid thing because we don't want to choose anymore we want to have all of it we want to have our cake and eat it that's the point of cake okay so let's write in blue here i want you to think about all the things that you currently do right now that you would put in the work category so those of you that are in the pro group you have this you can start filling this thing out those of you that are going to be watching this video later if you want this worksheet i will send this to you all you have to do is send me some money on demo i don't care what the amount is send whatever you think this workshop or this discussion has been worth to you and i will send you the pdf all you have to do is make the comment about work life balance worksheet and i will send this to you okay obviously anybody can re create this it's not about that but it's just a token of my appreciation to you so everybody you have the worksheet i want you to start working on this and while you do that i'm going to start writing in what i think okay and if you were to get finished with this list i want you to go over here and talk about life like what do you consider that you want to do in your life what's important to you under this category the relationships that you have what taking care of yourself means in body and mind and what gives you joy fills you with positive vibes the spirit it could be your faith it could just be playing music whatever it is that makes your soul feel with joy filled with joy you write that thing down and then we'll figure out the magic in the middle and hopefully then we'll achieve something beyond work life balance we're going to achieve work life integration that's the concept that i believe in okay so why don't we do this you all work i will work and we'll check in from time to time okay okay so for money like i said before i used to make videos um i i taught for a living so i was teach teaching i did design so videos teaching design what that did i do for money i would lecture consulting i was doing sales marketing and i did branding i made money as being an entrepreneur okay let's talk about now what i do that feels i want to be a good husband i want to be a good father what else did i do for fun i'm like stuck now you know what actually i like to travel too just like everybody yeah yeah you're right ricky thanks for reminding me i like to read and learn hey man you know my life better than i do what the heck is going on here i'm i like to create things what's that jonah what did you say yeah yeah it's over here but you're right i actually get a lot of fulfillment from teaching it gives me great joy so i almost didn't want to write that because it seems like too obvious where this one's going like there's a magic big oven off the set and then just pull out and it's a magic dish yeah here's the cake here's a meatloaf it's perfect here's the risotto i've been slaving on this all day and here it is um i like to i know you guys are going to doubt me i actually do like to exercise i like the outdoors like backpacking you're like not judging by that body you're rocking right now there buddy okay just remember i'm 50 years old you know things slow down i like building community i like being around people so which fits under all that stuff so relationships these things are important to me oh you know what my wife's gonna look at this she's gonna laugh she's like no you never do anything let me just erase this so i'm i'm actually not a relationship person it's really weird because i keep in touch with nobody i want to be of service to other people is that okay that gives me joy i want to help others as many other people here had said also yeah so we're working towards work life integration it's integration all right pro people how are we doing do pretty good we're going to be good ready well let's see if we can't get you there paul we'll get to the land of milk and honey okay a lot of similarities yes and you know it's kind of like maybe this set of exercises or these prompts are different than our ikigai one and maybe it'll help someone unlock something in their mind so here's the big question what if work could be more like life and what if life could be more like work and we want to approach it from both sides this is why the arrows go this way so i'm going to just try okay a win would be when we can overlap so i want to do this thing right here we want to overlap the bigger the overlap the more joy we're going to have so it could be a little one or it could be something like this we're looking for overlap so if i make videos i used to make tv commercials and if i could make an ad and it called for casting young children and my boys are like dad we want to we want to be on tv great then you're going to go to work with me you're going to make money you're going to get experience and i'm going to use whatever i do in work and i'm going to blur the lines together what if i love to travel and i make a logo for everywhere that i travel but somehow i can find a way to get paid for that we're going to just try we're going to try what if being outdoors and exercising i can consult or i can do a lecture oh wait wait a minute what if i decided to book um like a spot a joshua tree and invited a bunch of my pro family and we did a workshop there and that they wanted to pay for i get to travel be outdoors i get to teach and be of service to other people while making money that's what we're looking for as many of these things possible to overlap that's the game you win okay so we'll get into concrete examples but first i just wanted to say that so for those of you playing along at home if you can take as many ingredients from over here and mash it up with many ingredients over there bring them together that's telling you move in that direction because that's going to give you joy and we're going to blend them together we're going to create this fusion between these different things now i jonah i know dejonah is an aspiring designer he's posting a lot of typography on his instagram so giving him joy right now would be on design he's not making any money on that just yet but if he finds a way to say launch a streetwear company that he can then push that out into the universe those things are in alignment and that's what we're looking for everybody understand that right and then we'll get into concrete examples of how one might do this in theory in theory i don't know where this is going ricky like let's keep them guessing a little bit we have no idea i'm going to pause here and open it up to our pro group is it starting to make some sense for you if it is what i'd like for you to do is don't raise your hand just yet i want to hear what one of your overlaps is that you are either doing currently or makes so much sense that you can do really soon i'd like to hear from you so i'm going to give it a couple of seconds i see that paul's his hands up already just give me two seconds here so i'm going to call this work life integration and we're looking you know what this is the perfect version of this is i said that there's almost no difference between this and the crossover is great because that then makes a beautiful guess what the letter o we're looking for overlap somebody later is going to watch this what does verlap mean i don't know what furlock means overlap people overlap okay we have a couple hands up okay so paul what's one of your ideas uh well for me the whole thing overlaps except for one thing which is actually design execution i can live without that um but you know teaching for me um i've i've been paid to teach and i enjoy if i had more than enough time i'd continue doing that yes okay so your number one thing would be to teach right it happens to be my thing too so i'm going to write it here to teach okay because teach is how we make money teaches also what gives us great joy so it has double purpose there and so then let's integrate teaching because it gives us joy and it makes us money what are we going to teach paul well for me it would be um helping people get unstuck on ways to get themselves unstuck whether some mindset mindset spiritually and in their business okay is this something you currently do now it's what i'm headed towards beautiful okay so i'll write my answer up here and then you write your answer okay my answer would be okay you know what look at this i'm gonna teach look at that they both line up here and here okay what's his teach and one is his teaching you know what i teach i teach everything on this thing here except for i mean not everything i teach people how to do sales and marketing and i'll show you the bonus here in a second i need to talk about branding and entrepreneurship ah what a coincidence how we got here this is not even premeditated i teach about sales and marketing branding entrepreneurship and here's the super like mega bonus point one i used to make videos for a living so when i'm teaching it makes me money gives me joy on things i already know about and i use the skill set of video making look at that that in mortal kombat is a death strike deadly combo chain combo what do they call that whatever all right we're done with the video game metaphors we stop right there right and lecturing consulting look at that it all seems to do that so of course paul feels really connected to my list because my list is his list he just needs to find a business model to be able to do this then he's in the money circle and bob's your uncle work integration magic and look what else happens here if my family gets involved like my my family my children they participate in this i get another two times x bonus kill point look at that wait a minute in order to be a better teacher i have to be a better student so i get to learn and read oh my god another two points 2x that's why i find such great fulfillment doing what it is that i do some people would accuse me chris you work too much i'm like what work i mean i do work but it's not really work for me this is what i love to do that's it okay this is beautiful so you can see like actually with the exception of a few things like that paul mentioned already there's a ton of overlap here too because sometimes i'm flown i get to travel somewhere and i'm able to bring my son with me because i just pay for his ticket he flies coach of course and he gets to sleep in my bed so the room is free and often times i just ask them can i get an extra pass for my son e or something most hotels are very cool about that so he's been to more places at 15 years old than i was probably by the time i was 25. he's seen more of the world because i didn't travel at all because when we go back to this page here where are you remember this one right here the first five years of my business life i did not do much living i just worked no vacation no holiday no nothing that's all i did and so consequently i was probably the heaviest i was in my life at that point in time and i couldn't see anything else but work and i started to aggravate my wife she supported me she did work in the company for a period of years but after she retired she was like what are we doing like are we two roommates or is there more to this than you just working all the time and to some degree i felt at that point in time it was necessary because i was just establishing our business but the consequences of it are very clear we got into fights she was on edge i was on edge i was like why don't you like just relax because i'm working and i need to work and luckily we got through that rough patch and we made it through and 25 years later we're still here okay so let's get back to the list all right now list try to overlap all these things so i get to create i get to travel my children sometimes help me not as much as i like but they get to travel with me and it's some of the best adventures we've ever been on in our lives and it was in one very particular very memorable trip we went to cebu and my son got to stay on island i've never been on a private island before we got to swim with the whale sharks pretty gross the reason why is because they dump i don't know kind of shrimp or something in the water they do something in the water krill and so the whale sharks come up and we're swimming we're eating that thing too it's pretty nasty yeah side store my stuff my son had a stomachache afterwards because he he's inhaled so much salt water just swimming with them because we're we're like they're enormous when you're like there and luckily they're vegetarian or another vegetarian there's only people so and we also got to fly the helicopter but in in manila oh i'm starting taboo i got him to come on stage and do a part of my talk and i have to say for as long as i'll live i remember the courage that a little dude had to sum up in the back room and i had to look in the eyes like you can get out of this i'm gonna let you out you don't have to do this you go stand i can do it i can do it i said okay i want you just run up there step on the stage and do your best impersonation of me and the audience will forgive you for everything you say right and wrong it'll be totally okay i thought that little guy was going to back out but he didn't he ran up there and he did it and he was beaming with pride and i was beaming with pride and we helped each other out we've gone on a lot of misadventures and i feel like that time when he was 13 to 15 years old our two lives were just totally overlapping you know he'd help me out i'd help him out he brought his laptop and he would make sure dad you need to be here here's your stuff and i'll take notes for you and trying to be my little assistant and i'm going to cherish that moment and that our time together forever so that's me doing fun stuff with my kids traveling my wife wasn't there but we got to read and learn together and i got paid to consult or lecture or teach or something like that and i'd love for anybody here who has children to be able to start thinking about how do i bring my family involved in all this not just as an accessory but an integral part the word integration is really important my son my oldest son otto he's like dad i want to do a clubhouse call with you fantastic a little nervous you know how children are they have a mind of their own and they can sometimes betray you on the spot and i was like it's one of the most nervous times i've ever been and also because as a dad i wanted to protect him so if someone asked them a really hard question how do i get them out of this you know what i mean so there's a lot of challenges there but i love that kind of stuff we currently don't make content together that makes any money but anytime the kids want to step into this i'm just super thrilled and i remember because i get paid um to teach and there are sponsors of artistic tools and both my children are very artistic i was like if you use the tools i'll take a picture of that and the sponsors will pay us for that so that's again work life integration i'll give you one other story that don't involve my kids so i'm traveling i love the outdoors i love fishing so i'm at this fishing lodge called oles it's off the central west coast of canada and i'm there as a patron as a customer but i get to know the owners and operating manager and we build a relationship and i wind up doing their sales and marketing so watch what happens again right sales and marketing for them and i get paid this is good and some of the money instead of paying me cash they give me in trips so i have a backlog of comps like trips that i can gift to people i can use them myself and you know what i was able to do i got to bring on multiple trips my dad and three of my uncles who had never gone on a trip like that before because it's kind of expensive and i just can't see how they would ever do that and we my dad and three my uncles and five people we got to go on i think for them at least a trip of a lifetime to three old men and all my cousins were so happy for their their their parents but also somewhat jealous that they weren't able to do this i got to go with my friends people who work here and that is integration of those relationships to people and i got to share that experience with them the people i care a lot about we did create some content out there hasn't seen light of day so that one's minus one [Laughter] oh i thought you said it's in the dry box using a fishing term there that's gonna say good one ricky okay so that's another way that we can do this right and not today but soon soon you're gonna see my hobbies and exercise fitness and fashion i'm gonna find a way to make money on that too i'm gonna do one more just for fun because it seems like it's all coming together right like magic let's talk about service to help others you are all here because you're part of the future pro group so the pro group is how i build community how i maintain relationships it's also how we make money i record videos i'm teaching things about sales and marketing branding and entrepreneurship and we get to connect in real life and when we have a meetup we get to do fun things like exercise together fun for some torture for others and when we're out here we get to create content together so look at the multipliers again it's pretty wonderful when these things start to line up okay and i want to say one thing after i outline this part so we do meetups and we can create content and i get to help people and we get to be outdoors isn't that amazing get to do all this stuff at some point i would love to be able to go to some place that's exotic maybe thailand i don't know i have yet to return to vietnam so i'd love to go to vietnam and meet a bunch of you out there in order to do that you all need to make more money so that this doesn't become a problem that travels part of your life all that is multiplying on top of itself you know what's really cool is that we this creates some kind of really interesting loop if you think about it so you all in the future pro community we all make content together and then the content becomes sales and marketing for more people to join you see the loop there it's pretty awesome so those of you that want something like this because obviously you're here for a reason if you want to do this around say with kia who wants to do this around cooking or ivy who's still here who wants us to do this around teaching creative people how to do sales you want to learn how to build a business model around this so all the breadcrumbs on how to get here are laid out clearly within this community and if not all you have to do is poke me and then i will just tell you it's that straightforward okay i can see you guys are stunned so rather than us continuing this conversation about work-life balance we should be talking about work-life integration and that's how we achieve the harmony and the ultimate balance and it's not this binary thing when we have to choose one and sacrifice another these are not things that are in opposition and this is not a man bag this is the belt the weight from before except for now we've melted those two parts two things between work and life we've melted them together we've merged them to create this kind of cool fake digital camouflage pattern the piece of the puzzle that's the things that you're looking for and you say how does this puzzle piece match up with the other one how do i start to bring these two things together and that's the magic um any any questions does anybody have any questions i mean i love the model of integration but sometimes you know they say it's not a good idea to integrate like i actually had a not the most pleasant experience once trying to bring my son into a work project and i kind of ran into some of the issues that i think you'll apply it's a challenging authority uh type of thing and then i ended up having to save him uh you know from from a relationship but also like you know sometimes they say it's not a great idea to mix hobbies in business what are your thoughts on when you should have boundaries like i think the idea of integration is great but sometimes it should be fluid and you want to separate work from life things because it takes the fun out of it yeah i i don't know if it for me it's it there's a lot of fun in it but there's rough executions that we shouldn't judge the idea based on the execution that the idea is good we just have to find better expressions of the idea and i feel you because i've brought my kids before to to to london and to what is it called birmingham and we're out there for a festival but the kids weren't well traveled enough i was so busy doing my talk and preparing for it that we did not have a lot of time meaning like they wanted me to say dad we're gonna go here i'm gonna take you there and we're gonna experience these things but i'm the kind of dad who's like you know what you're on your own kid you all figure out what you need to do and you tell me where we need dinner you tell me where you want to go and they defaulted to what they normally do which is to play video games all day so they sat in the hotel and so that was one of those ones where the execution was flawed but the id and the opportunity was good we did get to go to see something that they may never return to that city ever again right and there are i think some gems still in the misadventures and i want to talk about that would be really transparent about the challenges what ian brings up is very much true so let me tell you the misadventure so we're in london i had quite literally stayed up all night the night before i ran a six or seven hour workshop so i was running on fumes and that night when we went back to the hotel we had a flight out the next day at a reasonable time i told the boys i'm super tired guys i want you to plan on how we're gonna get to the airport you know the information i want you to plan it out my oldest he's super responsible he's like yeah dad i got this and so i went to sleep and while they're out playing video games i could hear them as i was coming in and out of consciousness i'm a very light sleeper but on this particular occasion i was dead tired and i was coming down with something too and then i wake up the next morning both of them are still in bed because i told them wake me up otherwise we're gonna miss our flight and i wake up you know i try to do my thing shower shave get ready pack my bags they're still unconscious and i'm getting a little nervous like i wake them up i'm like boys hey let's go you guys aren't ready like why didn't you wake me up they're going to be fine we'll just take an uber and i said no you know what we're not going to take an uber because i don't need any planning to take an uber i could just call an uber myself and they're like okay so we'll need to take the train right and they didn't know what train to take so they did zero preparation so now we're under the wire we're rushing out of the hotel i'm asking the person at the front desk where we should go he directs us we get on the train he goes the wrong direction we get off that train go in a different direction and it's total pandemonium and chaos we eventually make it to the airport in time but as soon as we get up to the gate they're like you know what it's too late we're not going to let you in they're already closing the gate it's too late and my oldest all of a sudden you can see in his face in his eyes the blood was just draining out of his face because he knew we had missed our flight home and they were all ready to go home and so he's just like oh dad i'm so sorry i'm like just relax let me figure this thing out now luckily uh there was a gentleman whose work on a different counter where we went to talk to he goes let me take care of you he starts rearranging a couple things he says why'd you miss this flight and i was about to say something and he just filled in the answer for me that's why you missed this flight so we don't have to charge you and he really took care of it so i saw some english hospitality in that moment and in the meantime while he's still working on this i called my wife and she goes i can't believe you guys you missed the flight why didn't you do this she was like just crazy on me i'm like you know what it'll be okay i'm not stressed out my kids are stressed out and i wanted them to feel that again i wanted to feel stressed out but in my mind you know what i knew which is what we've talked about before paul i knew we had money and we had time is it the worst thing in the world will you get back in the cab check in another hotel stay another night in london not a big deal for me not a big deal because i didn't have anywhere else to be and i had the money so i just told my boys don't worry about it we'll be okay luckily we got in we have four hours to kill but we're on a plane ride home and those are the misadventures and again i don't think in my mind that's what i wanted to happen but embrace it that's just part of life and i'm okay with that but that only comes because we have the flexibility if i had a client meeting the next day if i was really tight on money if i could not miss this flight that would have been a total disaster i have many more stories like that about the misadventures by still even though they didn't turn out perfect or even well i'd still not trade them for the world because i even had the opportunity to mess up and reflect back on my own life with my father who worked all day long i never once saw what he did in my life i never once went to work with him so there was zero work-life integration and i know we're not talking about polarities here but if i had to choose between a couple of screw-ups and kids saying you know or not being respectful or messing up your professional life i'd rather choose that every day of the week than to say my kids never got to see what their old man does well i never got to see them in their prime as like little little rugrats running around so i would not trade that yeah great i think that makes a lot of sense i i had some good experiences as well so uh i agree with you yeah they're challenging for sure so every parent out there that's trying to get their kids involved it is really tricky but i gotta tell you so for a long time my youngest uh ever since he was like this this small he and i have a special relationship we're like really tight and now he's this tall we're still tight and this is the best part he's starting to see the benefit of his dad doing what he does me because he's like dad i mentioned something about the work that you do and my teachers like invite your father to come and speak i i didn't know that's that's what he does and so now our worlds are starting to merge together you just have to be patient enough to allow it to happen you know and it will happen i think and in fact next week the reason why i'm really stressed out of my mind is i'm going to be flying to the east coast doing a talk in front of thirteen hundred kids at my son's senior high school class a little stressful little everybody's like that's right my main job is not to try to have my kids live my life in their bodies it's just to show them as much as i can and let them figure out what works for them and it's very ironic because on clubhouse my oldest son otto when people ask him what do you want to do he goes uh i want to do something that's meaningful and impactful i want to i want to help as many people as i can um and they're like what about what your dad does he goes no i want to teach people like rodney dangerfield no respect i got no respect you know like uh what i do is mickey mouse but what you'll do that's gonna really impact the world okay that little dude i don't know where he gets that idea from it's terrible i don't do this design stuff it's trivial dad i'm like okay okay i think it's at this time i must have some other slides to talk about something oh these are just notes i don't have anything else to go i wanted to ask you guys all to think about maybe here's my note to you okay from today what's one thing one thing what's one thing that you can take away from this what's one thing what's one takeaway inspiration look for the overlap look for the overlap okay one at a time now beautiful look for the overlap okay perfect who's next oh this isn't static and that you have to uh continuously reassess to keep things in balance okay so i'll write reassess hopefully i can spell that word i think the thing is instead of saying reassess just be really fluid so two s's at the end okay so to be fluid and not to be so concrete to be not binary okay let's keep going somebody can correct me later internets will tell me um something else one takeaway one one thing that you took away from this i think also sometimes finding the next step is obvious when you list like that and you see an obvious calling or an obvious connection when you listen like that i think that was brilliant how do we say that in in a word relationships or or connections oh there we go okay so connect the dots okay perfect thank you that worked i also think being internally driven versus externally driven yes meaning you know question you know what is valuable yep self-awareness okay beautiful thank you okay be open to change be open yeah meaning you know a different point to your life cycle different things matter meaning you know like when you're younger and you may have to invest more time and growth your career or money may mean more to you you said be open to change but there's a different word for change because change can be scary to people i just say be open to opportunity yeah that's better and the opportunity is inside the change right it's inside there but that's what we're looking for okay that's excellent i think that's it so one thing i want to share with you that um because i was i was reading about this aaron garrison was so kind to share some thoughts on this topic before so let me try this so usually we kind of look at it like this we have work life right so we're gonna say work and then we have life if i had to boil work down i would say you gotta you gotta make money and there's got to be some purpose you got to help people too it can't just be all about taking care of yourself and then it's about people and doing more of what gives you joy and if we look at it in a kind of binary way we have equal amounts of time to dedicate towards these things so i'm going to give a lot of my time to to money and sometimes at the cost of people i may find some purpose and i have to sometimes sacrifice what gives me joy and so that's how we divide up our time when we look at it as work life balance but let me let me do a different way we're still going to draw circles but if we look at it like it's fluid it's not in opposition that we can draw a very different diagram so we say you know what i need to make money because money affords me all kinds of freedom and autonomy and the ability to choose what it is that i want to do that's the whole point of money like if i don't feel like working today and i want to go for a run i'm going to go for a run and i'll be all right and so what we do is we say you know the circle around money is this big so it hits a lot of other things it hits the people in our in our lives the relationships that we're trying to build and maintain and to strengthen and it gives us purpose because we're helping people and helping people gives us joy and if what gives us joy allows us to make money it starts to overlap but here's the really cool part we can also look at it from well what gives me joy that brings people into my life that brings money into my life maybe that circle looks like this and then we get into the people and i'll make that red and maybe it our relationships aren't something that we can cash in on too much but it could look like this so there's some overlap so you're getting a little bit of that sliver of that quadrant in there and then i have one last color here i can use and purpose hopefully the purpose is the thing that brings us all together so it's going to be just as big and so all this wonderful overlap this delicious overlap where we get all of it is somewhere in here this is the quadrant that we get everything right here it's contained in the red that is where you will find work life integration and i hope that you get there and the thing i wanted to say earlier was that keep in mind i'm almost 50 years old i didn't begin this journey until i was 42. not because i'm a late bloomer because i'm dumb but sometimes you have to live enough life to see different things to be able to know who you are to have the skills that you need in order to be able to be in a position where you can even see something like this so i don't want anyone to watch this video if you're 19 or 20 years old or 16 or however old you are and say oh my god i'm overwhelmed by this this is making me feeling depressed like i'm not there yet well if you're if you're 20 20 years old you have at least 22 years if you're using my my own benchmark here to get there you have an additional 22 years to sort this stuff out but good news now that you've seen it the roadmap is there the blueprint and the breadcrumbs are all there for you you may not take as long as i took you may just be able to shorten it by a few years and what i wouldn't do to have a couple extra years to do what it is i i intend to do the thing that i read was this is that the critical part that all of you need to do is to take action because without action without taking actual steps nothing will happen this will just be a lecture it'll just be an idea that tickles your brain for a few minutes and then it's gone you must take action for all things work you have to take action and when you take action you're going to reflect on the experience this is critical so it's not enough just to do something but after you've done it you need to think about what you've done and so that you can come up with a new thought to take more action and this just keeps going on and on okay first take action that's the most critical thing if you have an idea today i want you to try it it could be a small one it could be a big one whatever it is just try it do it have the experience of it and then look back on that experience and think about what did i do right what could i do better what would i change and then take more action and just keep going having said that i want to thank all of you fine pro people for jonah and for ricky a quick announcement kind of sad departure for us ricky's moving on to greener pastures as they say he was not led to slaughter but he is moving on so this may be the last time we hear the comedy stylings of ricky ricky you want to come up on stage and say goodbye to everybody come on up ricky six feet apart but you know come on up so there's ricky hi everyone um it's been great to be here and learn from this guy every day um for over three years and i hope to keep working with chris in some capacity and it's just been really great to get to know some of you and to hopefully teach some of the lessons that chris has given me to like cut for you guys hopefully you guys have enjoyed them and i just want to say thank you and keep supporting the future because i really do believe in this mission and it's really something that means a lot to me thank you ricky yay we'll we'll like pipe in the fake applause yeah yeah a little boo in a jeer um ricky on the note of you continue to work with us as soon as you leave these doors you're dead to me just want to be clear about that so thank you um thank you all for hanging out with us i know for some of you especially in europe it's really really late okay so i think that's it for us this is my last slide you guys know i want to thank everybody who watches the channel who shares and comments i know who you are i read all of your comments i appreciate you i also just just i'm grateful for this opportunity as we run full speed ahead towards two million two million baby two million that's where we're going so thank you very much those you guys that want this you can then mow me some money only if it gives you joy there's no pressure for you too and just dm me or message me the word um work life balance and i will send you this this worksheet obviously you don't need it you can just do it on your own okay thanks everybody i will see you guys next time see you in the future thank you [Music] i heard it if you're taking a photo like a portrait of yourself you're supposed to flex your nostrils like expand them yeah because look at my nose my nose looks nice but then it's like [Music] all right see you guys [Music] tell me it's over it's over oh god oh my god that was bruised i'm going home what did i even say dude i don't even know what i said get me out of here isn't that the shirt you wore on the last one no it's i have two the same because it looks good on camera so let's see yeah yeah boom liar