Spotting Differences New Mindset

OK I I'm a believerin evolution,I know some people heremay not in creationism,but I feel that whathas helped us survivefor a really long time isprobably not helping usin the last, I don'tknow, 100 years wherethere's a lot of prosperity.I don't think ourbodies, our biologyhas adapted quickly enough tothe way in which we're working.There has been someexponential advancesin humankind in science,technology, food.We live longer,we live healthier.There's lots of thingsthat are going on.But there's this corething inside of us,this kind ofreptilian brain thathelped us to survive forhundreds, if not hundredsof thousands of years, right?So I'm just thinking aboutthis in the wild, your eyes.And then therefore your mindis trained to spot what'sdifferent, what jumps out atyou, what moves is what youneed to be alert and aware of.And we are the beneficiariesof our ancestorswho had reallygreat senses wherethey can hear something andsay, OK, that's a threat,and that's not a threat.And visually, like we can spotsomething in the field of grasswhere we know that'sa rabbit or a squirrelor that's a lion or somethingthat's going to eat or kill us.Now I've noticed something.This phenomenon has transferredover into the way that we talkand the way we're workingtogether on social media.If I post something,if I share an idea,the first response that Iget from people is what is.I'm not.I can't do that.You've had thesethings happen for you.I didn't go to that school.I don't live in that country.I don't live in that state.My parents aren't together.My parents are gone.I'm adopted.People are constantly spottingthings that are different.And they spend somuch time and energylooking for things that aredifferent, even subconsciouslyor consciously.This is what they're doing.And I'm thinkingto myself, that'sreally odd, because when I seesomebody who is successful,like, I look at Oprah or.Martha Stewart or Tony Robbinsor Gary Vaynerchuk or PeterMcKinnon.I don't sit there and thinkwhat makes us different?I look for thingsthat make us the same.I'm looking for theexact opposite thing.So this is a mind setswitch that maybe I havethat I'd like to share with you.I want to have adiscussion about this.As to what it is I'malways looking for.So, yes, I am not anAfrican-American Black womanon TV trying to heal peoplein the way that Oprah does.But I'm looking athow she holds herself.What kinds of thingsshe's done in her lifeso that I can learn from thoseopportunities and see what elseI can take fromthat in this way.And you've heard mesay this before, I feellike I'm a knowledge vampire.I want to come in.I will look at somebody.I'll look at a situation.I'm going to break it down.I'm going to start pulling away.Passing pieces sortof makes me stronger.It makes me more fortifiedand more resolvedin what it is that I do.So let's open it up,because let's havea discussion about this, aboutwhether or not you think.You're a person who spotsdifferences or starts to lookfor things that make usthe same, because thatmight be a key in helpingyou to get through this.Anybody?hey.Oh, go ahead.OK you go you first.Hey, Chris, my name is your.You were for me.How are you doing?I personally, I tend tolook for the differencesbecause I've always feltlike the differences help.Like, fill me of.Bring my work tofruition like, youknow, just knowbased on background,like why am I doing certainthings, certain things?Because I was maybe,maybe it comesfrom a place of lacking orfeeling like I liked it.But being able tospot the differenceshas always been likesomething that drove me from,like, you know,wanting to go from justliving in the inner city, youknow, growing up in New York.I wanted to stay in New Yorkto trying to travel the world.And just like spotting thedifferences opens up my horizonand whether it's fromthe typekit booksI read to the, you know,venturing out and lookingfor the future orthings like that,just trying to findthings that aredifferent from my environment.So it drives me to.Be better, in a sense.And I'm not sure thatfits into what itis, I have a question for you.When you spot these differences.And I think human beingsas a sign of intelligencewhere we're patternrecognition machines,you know, we're always lookingto recognize patterns, right?So it sounds to me fromthe way that you'retalking, when yousee a differenceand you're able to make somekind of internal comparison.How does that make you feel?Does it make you feel sad?Does it make you feel happyor neutral ambivalent?How does it make you feel?It makes me feel that.I can accomplish anything.It sounds weird, but it makesme feel that the world is mine,that has been likea mantra, so Ican have these different beliefsystems that are tied togetherin a sense, to make likea whole long foundationand being able to saythat, OK, there's notmany Black designers,but like, Iknow what I'm capable of this.I know that I'm able to do this.There's a difference betweenhow I learned design versus, youknow, how it's traditionallytaught or anything like that.And, you know, being ableto say that, OK, I'm not I'mnot learning througha four-year collegeor I didn't get amaster's degree in design.But if I. Have that,you know, that beliefthat the world is mine, Ican still transcend that gap.And yeah, it just feels likethere's just a feeling of,I don't want to sayit makes me feel happyor it makes me feel sador anything like that.It just makes me feel.Driven OK.I try to take theemotion out of itand just, like begoal oriented and knowthat I can makethings happen as much,I know that canmake things happen.Yeah based on what Isee and how I couldtry to figure out how to get.OK, so what I'mhearing from you isyou do spot thesedifferences and you use themas a tool to motivateyou, and I thinkthat's a fairlycommon practice and itsounds like you have a healthyway of looking at things.I think what I'mdoing is, if I seesomebody that issuccessful, someonewho is a better designeror a better communicator,I start to study them.I'm often excited and happy whenI see somebody doing somethingbetter than me because I alwayslook at those as opportunitiesto learn opportunitiesto grow because Iknow how my mind works.If I focus on anything, Iwill improve on that thing.And I think there's aneconomist who said this,and I may butcherthis quote here,but what gets measured, whatgets measured gets improved.So whenever you'refocusing and you'recalculating things like,for example, if you startto measure your weight, ifyou start to weigh yourselfand you log it into ajournal, magically, you'llstart to lose weight.When you start to run and youuse one of those Nike watchesor it's one of thoseexercising programs,you'll start to runa little faster.You'll start to runa little farther.It's because it'sbeing measured.So what?I'm looking at people orpeople or designers or anythingwhere I think, wow, that isincredible or I look at a spacelike we did a little workshop atthe wee workspace in downtown,and I was looking at how theybring people in the lobbyarea, the furniture, and I'msitting there spotting like,what can I learn from this?How do I need to arrangeour space differently?The lighting here is muchbetter than our space.What are they doing?So I'm trying to takethose things with me,and now I'm goingto say I'm goingto make that the same, ok?So I want to get somebodyelse into this conversation.Thank you for sharingthat you work.Now let's talk toRadhika or Radhika.I was making a similar point.I think that's puttingthe differences isan essential component ofimproving on those differences.You need to know how you'redifferent from the person,be it in a goodway or a bad way.But I mean, be itin ways that theyare better than usor the ways that theylack from our abilities.But it's important to knowthe differences as much as itis to know what same.Mm-hmm I guess if youspot the difference,it's how you code thatexperience or that observationthat allows you toExcel or to send youinto a Downward spiral.I think so.It sounds like you were.It has a healthyrelationship with that.He sees a differenceand he's like, OK,that's going to motivate me.That's fueled because I wantto be able to achieve thator I want to beable to learn that.So then that puts himinto different mode.So that's fantastic, ok?Because so many timesI talk to peopleand they seem tofind 1,000 reasonswhy they can't do something.So they have obviouslyspotted the difference.But now they codedthat moment as that'sa barrier, that's a challenge,and I'm not going to go there.I can't achieve that.And I think this is why.There people gravitate towardsdifferent people in life.For example, Ben burns isn'ton our show very often,but when he is peoplelike, oh, that's me,I'm that kind of guy.I'm dealing with my weight.I'm I come froma place where I'mself-taught in a smallmarket, and I'm justtrying to make it in the world.I have a daughter and a wife.I'm trying to take care of.And so they relate to his story.So if he says the exactsame thing that I say,they can hear it from him.And it's true.Some people canhear things from meand they can't hear from him.And that's why the world iskind of broken up this way.And I've said this beforeand something for youguys to think about.I really don't think there'sa whole lot of new informationin the world.I'm kind of steering clearfrom sciences, you know,where they actually discovernew things like the CRISPR geneand those kinds of things.But I'm talking aboutin everyday normal lifephilosophy, business management,because as I was tracing thingsback from Tony Robbins toGrant Cardone to Brian Tracy,they all seem to trace thingsback to Jim rohn, who learnedit from a guy named Earl.I forget his last name.OK, now then Jimbrown, who is oneof the forefathers ofbusiness philosophy,then says all thelessons that helearned he learned from theBible like the Old Testament.And that's been around fora couple of thousand years,right?So why am I sharing this part?Because essentiallythe same informationis being recycledthroughout the universe.But it's the personthat delivers itto them that is importantfor a lot of people.So I see and I'm encouragedby people like Bonnie, who'sstarting her own group seeingkind of what's happening insideof here and saying,you know what,I'm going to do somethingfor my community in my voicebecause people are going tobe able to connect with that.The message is goingto resonate with them.I forget what's thename of your group,Barney is like,thank you, I needspace or something like that.It's kind of funny.But she has herown group, and it'sfor introvert, introverted,creative peopleand built around maybe imagesor something like that.So each one ofyou guys realizingthat people identifywith people and knowthat even though the messageis exactly the same because youare different, you makethat piece of informationmore accessible.So I'm really going to encourageeach and every single oneof you guys that really wants tostart to do something like whatwe're doing to go ahead and doit, build a little community,do it for free, doing a closegroup, doing a public group,it doesn't really matter.Start to build your community.Share your story.Put yourself out there.And I see this happening.I see people recordingvideo and tagging me on it.And admittedly,I don't have timeto watch everyone's videos, butI'm just it just lights me uplike, wow, people are doing it.This is fantastic.People are startingto go out and buythemselves gear fordoing podcasts or video,and they're just startingto share their story, right?I see Rachel doing it.I see a whole bunchof guys doing it.It just excites me.So if you're a personwho's sitting thereand you're really goodat pattern matching,you're saying that'sdifferent, that's different.Now, let's make sureyour observations don'tgo into the negative column thatyou use any of that informationthat you find to feelyou to move you forward.That's it, that's all Iwanted to say about that.