Can You Do It All & Be Successful? Multi-hyphenate, Hybrid Professional

i am having an absolute crisis of opportunity i i have three careers that i want each one of them shows a tremendous amount of promise and i'm not willing to let go of any of them so i need a system to manage my time or or to be better at living my life so that i can make these things happen in parallel the first thing i'll say is that in my experience most things don't end well when we try to do them in parallel there's a famous saying that is if you try to catch two rabbits you don't catch any so if you feel like you're being pulled in two directions the first thing that's going to be difficult is the decision right decision i think it comes from a latin word incision which means to cut or to cut off and decision is a word from that which means like when we decide we have to cut off a bunch of other stuff right yeah so i think the first thing you're actually going to need some help with is making a decision and the way that i make decisions is the first thing i've got to be clear on is what's the outcome you've got to get super clear on what do i actually want because how do we decide what path to take if we don't know what we want or like where are we going and most people say things like i want more money or i want more time or i want more opportunities it's like okay great well get up an extra hour before bed here's 10 bucks and i'll introduce you to someone problem solved right so they're too generic they're too vague we need to be like really specific in terms of what we actually want right in the context of this area of our life whether it's relationships business finance whatever it is like what is the specific thing that we want so we want to get clear on like what is the outcome and the outcome needs to be specific when you're thinking about this area of your life so let's say career what is the specific outcome that you want well what if i want many things well cool let's list them all out yeah i want my dj career to kick back off where it left off before the pandemic and there's a lot of opportunity to do that i want to continue to grow my teaching community my student community that i teach on discord um and online and there's that's and do weekly streams and youtube videos and grow that because that is uh taking off right now as well and uh i want to continue i just sent off a proposal to a client um my first proposal sent uh for my virtual spaces company which i again haven't even started marketing and there's still leads just because of my positioning leads keep coming to me so i i really am finding impossible to say no to any of these things i just you know i i just i want them all okay amazing yeah well lots of opportunity and i can hear the there's lots of things going on and connor i feel you man so let me tell you a little story like before i started coaching um about five or six years ago i was dj and we had a little record label that we used to run um but it didn't pay the bills i was taking photos as a photographer which i used to do as a bit at events because i was there anyway building relationships with djs and i was also trying to run a digital marketing agency and dude i was burnt out i had no money and i was stressed but i was doing lots of cool creative right yeah right quality of life like happiness is probably off the charts right yeah at that stage and the thing is we don't need to have that we don't need to just have like creative fulfillment or financial security like we can have both i want to share something with you right now that helped me and there's just a caveat to this like it's not going to help you choose what you need right now but it is going to help you in the next 10 years of your life so it's totally up to you like we can look at specifically what you want to choose or we can zoom out and look at the bigger picture let's go bigger picture okay cool so look all of this stuff you're saying right we're saying we want an outcome and we want something specific now what i'm hearing is you want lots of things right so if i said to you what would the djing give you like why is the djing important to you because i'm able to express myself creatively okay okay so we've got creative expression and the large amount of people bit is is important as well isn't it right uh yeah because it's yeah because it's scaling and it feels even crazier the more it scales yeah and what what feelings does that give you um a a feeling of being understood a feeling of being uh you know permitted to be myself hmm so it's like there's this feeling of like creative expression this feeling of connection yeah cool um tell me a couple of remind me a couple of the other things that you said teaching same exact cool it's the same i express myself i teach them i tell them what's going on and then they connect it's the same okay is there anything else that you get from teaching that you don't get from dj well right now i'm getting money um but i don't think that uh yeah i mean i was getting money before the pandemic uh djing so that's something that i could get start getting money there again and also um right now i work for a college by the hour and so i'm building up my own private discord so that i can start charging by the head instead um so they both have opportunities for more money but okay and what does money give you what feeling is associated to that uh well obviously opportunity but also i i need a um yeah it's a big feeling of relief because you know um because i have been so broke before i have been like you know eating a bowl of rice a day broke and yeah and that's just uh also i want to i want to build up i've got i'm probably going to move next year to another country and so i need some cash to be able to invest into that new living space so it sounds like there's an element of security and an element of freedom absolutely yes um i'd be curious to know is there anything else apart from the money is there anything else that the teaching gives you that the djing doesn't it's a closer connection to the yeah it's it's it's deeper much deeper yeah what else are there any other words you would use to describe the connection like what what does it actually give you like why is teaching important i'm probably more extroverted uh so i get a tremendous amount of energy from teaching these classes especially the ones that go well like i don't know if i were you right now after this type of scenario where you're one unwanting a whole bunch of people i would just be shaking with excitement as soon as the call was over because the energy would just fly out i mean yeah you're a dj as well and so i'm sure we kind of might be similar in the way yeah totally like so you get that like bars because you're in front of people what's the difference between djing and teaching do you think teaching is more is more useful to the people that receive it okay so when you're doing that what is that feeling of useful now because you know it's useful how does that make you feel it makes me feel really wonderful because i get messages or art or whatever on a daily basis that that reflect the appreciation that people people are like oh my god you're the best teacher i've ever had that makes me feel good when they say that yeah so it gives you a feeling of significance and you know you're having a bit of an impact right yeah impact yeah lastly just tell me about the company like what does the company give you uh the company gives me opportunity for more money than i think i mean yeah i i i just sent off a proposal for like 10 000 to start um and uh and i you know i want to basically increase that to 20 or 30 or 40 like on every new clients just scale that way up so i can see my security massive freedom yeah and then i could also hire people out um yeah and then they're there i can train people because i'm a teacher know how to do that can train people hire them they can do a lot of the work and i can make way more money like way more money than that i mean in order to make the same amount of money djing i'd have to be in the top .01 of dj's yeah yeah totally man so i just want to know in the chat for everyone i just want to i want to hear what everyone else is getting from this right what does connor really want yeah jennifer security freedom impact significance making a difference stable income here's the crazy thing what we all really want is we want a feeling we want to feel a certain way and if that thing doesn't give us that feeling then we're like i don't like doing it if it does give us that feeling like oh we like doing it right here's the crazy thing there's a difference between vehicles the things that we think are going to give us those feelings and values which are those feelings themselves and the mistake that i was making was i was chasing the vehicle and you can't chase multiple vehicles what you need to do is you need to find one vehicle to give you all of your values right and you need to find a way to get your emotional needs met in one vehicle and you know what the cool thing connor is it kind of doesn't matter what that vehicle is because when you can find a way to get them all met in the order you need the met you don't miss the other stuff that was my fear oh i'm just gonna focus on being a dj oh but then i'm gonna miss the photography stuff right when i found coaching there's there's a bigger process to this there's something that takes like a longer period of time like when we work through with our clients like over six to nine months where we actually help them figure out what that vehicle is because it's already there it's already in your story right but we don't have time to go into that what i need you to know in this context is that ultimately what you want is the feeling and if you focused on how do i get those things how do i get those feelings in my day today everything else will come the trap is when we chase the vehicle do i do this do i do that and we can't we it never is what happens if i chase three vehicles at once you don't get either of them okay like the most successful i've ever been in my life is in this business because it's the only time i've ever had a singular focus most money i've ever earned most amount of fun i've ever had most amount of impact i've ever had all of the things that i want because i just focus and i said this is what i'm committed to because this is the thing that i think and based on the exercise i did with my story and unpacking all of that stuff this is the thing that allows me to get up every day and have those emotions i know i'm making an impact i know i'm having connection i know i'm having significance because i'm on that journey with those people and i'm seeing the impact like all and i focused on the values and i just asked myself like how do i get more of this today and the easier we can make it the more fulfilled we will be so if you have to be the world's top dj to feel significant dude you're going to spend a lot of time feeling insignificant and probably when you get there it will probably be like i feel pretty significant but i'm not this guy and so there's still that next layer whereas when you have a list like a menu to choose from of all of the things that you can do that make you feel significant i feel significant every time i fill in the blank and you have a load of stuff to choose from then you wake up every day feeling that thing and guess what the more of that we have the more of it we attract so if you start with the feeling and you really really identify what it is that you want and what needs to happen in order for you to get that feeling because it's just a permission thing we have our own rules that say i only feel significant when x y and z happens when i've got this much money in the bank when i'm doing this kind of thing but we get to create those rules that's the beauty of it so look i could i could sit here and help you choose one of those things but it's not going to serve you yeah what's really going to serve you is getting really clear on those values those emotional states and asking yourself like realistically out of all of these things what's the one that's realistically going to allow me to achieve this and if i've got a business or something that i think isn't giving me connection or freedom or significance question i would ask myself is how do i create that in that vehicle right what do i need to do to get that same thing and honestly dude like i don't miss djing and like i could probably do it more like and do it in my spare time like i've got a decent camera i go out and oh yeah i should do more of that but i don't miss that thing like i thought i did because i find a way to get that emotional need met through everything i'm doing with this business right does that make sense yeah i i yeah it makes perfect sense so my own i mean my only pushback i'm not trying to be uncoachable here like i i just uh you know i feel like yeah because i've quit djing a bunch of times because i said okay i can't do this right now but like i keep getting brought back in and every time i get brought back in i'm so much better than when i left i'm so much better and uh and it's just you know there's so much opportunity coming that's the thing is it's so hard for me to say no to opportunity and i hear you like your your needs are being fulfilled by this one avenue and that's what i thought my company would be because it would be 3d art it would be teaching because i could hold classes in my three in my space and it would be djing because i could put events on there and stuff but it does not scratch the it because that's why i was trying to do what you're suggesting but it doesn't scratch the itch that i just went to the park yesterday because pc is reopening and there was like 300 people there and they asked me to dj and i'm like holy sh i really really want to do that and i really really want to do the classes and i really really want the money that comes from my virtual spaces company so it's like i it i have it feels like i have my emotional needs to are higher than to be met or higher than um than maybe what would be possible for normal people and maybe i can just be crazy and make it happen anyway you could do dude look i'm not here to tell you how you should live your life right i'm just here to share my experience with you and kind of share the experience of of coaching other creatives um there's two things usually number one is the thing that we crave the most is the thing that's the most efficient so whatever that feeling is is probably the one that you haven't had for the longest amount of time that be fair to say yeah okay cool so just bear that in mind because there's the law of familiarity so if i said right every week you're going to go out and play that park in front of 300 people or 600 people eventually that feeling would be less of a buzz for you 100 yeah right so you've got to keep that in mind when you're like oh i feel like all my needs are the same um so that's the first thing second thing is maybe it is djing but you've got to decide like what and i'm going to be a bit crude here people know who mark manson is he's like uh american writer he's great i love his stuff um and one of his articles he says like what's your favor like you've got to decide what flavor sandwich you're going to eat because ultimately that came from him yeah whatever path you take there's going to be some hard stuff that isn't going to work and it's going to suck it's just inevitable right but if you if you can still find a way to get those values met even if it's like incremental then it's still going to give you those feelings and the more successful you get and when you do break through those things it's just going to be an amplification rather than i'm going to be deficient in that emotion until i reach this certain point and that's the difference so the difference is you saying i'm only going to have this thing when i get to go and play a gig in front of 300 people versus actually i can have this feeling of significance anytime i and stuff you can do on a daily basis and it sounds subtle but that will be the difference between like a fulfilling life and having one thing that you succeed at versus constantly chasing stuff does that make sense it does it totally i know that's not helpful in this moment no it's no it isn't not helpful it's helpful but as a principal i could not let you go without understanding that because no matter what we chose today you would just fall back into that pan in five years time or ten years time or whatever like this is what i heard and i think i'm just like i i literally think i'm not mature enough to to hear your words uh right i'm like like i'm just not like there's part of me that's just fighting it and i know it's it's it's def it's i'm positive it's right but i think you know as you said the the hit of doing a successful dj set would definitely diminish unless it continued to grow and so i thought okay well then i should instead of doing them weekly i should do them once a month you know and then or if i can do this thing once a month and i can do teaching two times a week and i can do virtual space building four times a week then maybe i will be able to do all the things that i want to do um yeah and have dude it might work for you right i'm just sure there's um if you want to check out there's a book i've got it somewhere it's called refuse to choose i know i'm like i recommend a whole bunch of people but i read a lot of books it's called refuse to choose and i think it's by someone called barbara scheer and she's very much of that belief that as creatives we shouldn't choose and we should be able to do these things personally and for a lot of people i work with i haven't found it to work in a way that is like really financially sustainable like the numbers you're throwing around they're like 10k per client and stuff like if you're doing three or four different things like you can't manage 10k clients if you've got like three or four different focuses like i know that from personal experience like if you're billing someone like 10 15 20 grand you've got to show up and deliver some stuff definitely yeah right even if it's like managing a team of people that are doing it like that's a big focus you see these people whether they're influencers or celebrities or whatever and they've got like six different companies and they're doing all this crazy stuff but they didn't start out like that and so the problem is people try to start out of the gates and they disperse their energy between six different things right even if you look at someone like will smith who i really admire he's got a team of people he just does some insane he's still only good at like two or three things and in fact he's got a new book coming out and mark manson the guy i wrote mentioned before actually wrote like part wrote it with him and one of the reasons he got mark in is because one of will smith's like fundamental beliefs is that you should be very good at a few things and so you see all these people but the thing is once you get to a certain level where you've made something successful it's so much easier to keep it there and build honestly totally yeah right so like how old are you 31 last week okay right so dude like most people overestimate what they can achieve in a year and underestimate what they can achieve in a decade you ever heard that saying yeah i think that was tony robbins don't try and do everything at once try and focus on one thing that you think right now is going to be the thing that's like most enjoyable that's going to get me all that stuff get that to a certain point and that doesn't mean you can't ever do any of those other things and i know it feels like right now all of these opportunities are coming at once but yeah but but it's not right it's like it's just in your head like there's plenty of opportunity out there and there's you go and create your own opportunity but like you need to you need to be focused like if you were 20 i would say go and do a bunch of stuff and find out what you like when you're 30 you should in my opinion you should be getting to the point where you're a little bit more focused and you start kind of creating a bit of a bit of a path just based on science and average life expectancy it takes to build companies and stuff right um but when you get a certain thing off the ground then you're like cool i can put a team in place i can put systems in place this thing is like running alongside nicely now maybe i can go and focus right okay okay thank you so i'm going to move on just because there's other people is that cool absolutely thank you so much really appreciate it do you know when that conversation happened like how long ago five months ago maybe four months ago so like what's changed since then a lot i mean matt was right i mean then we have to just lay the groundwork right now and say that matt was right and i knew matt was right when he was telling it to me but um it's very difficult i found it very difficult to say no to so many things that could satisfy me in so many different ways it could make me happy in so many different ways and so i had a lot of different passions and i had a lot of different uh opportunities come my way and to be frank i had enough talent and skill acquired in each one of these things to be able to take whichever one i chose to the next level but when i achieve a certain level of success the demand in time and effort and skill to get to the next level of success is higher than where i was previously at so to go from being a a good dj to a great dj takes a certain investment of time and i could be good at djing i could be good at virtual spaces i could be good at teaching but in order to be great at one of these things it's going to take away from the other things i can't be great at all of them i have found and maybe you'll agree with this that if you try to do all things at once life will force you into one of them you will end up cornered against what is possible for you to achieve in a certain amount of time limit and you will have to make a choice and there's there's nothing else to it and matt warned me about this right matt told me in advance that this was going to happen and i you know i i wanted to experience that myself you know because there's two ways you can learn something you can either learn something from someone telling it to you or you can learn something from some from experience right and i have opted for experience again and again and again because my my forehead is like nine inches thick it's just i'm just a stubborn bastard that's all there is to it um but now through that experience i have learned that i've been uh yeah i i have had to make a choice and luckily you know when presented with limitations or obstacles there is an opportunity for creativity and there's an opportunity to find a path that satisfies you know like matt was saying um not the vehicle to the happiness or the vehicles that you want to uh to choose but the the thing that comes as a result of that vehicle and i have put djing aside and that was a good move because covert flared back up again uh anyway and so it was an easy choice to make and my virtual spaces company i continued to develop for some time but it was too early in the industry the metaverse hasn't been a mainstream conversation until about this week with you know the announcements from some major companies about you know what they're planning to do with the metaverse um so i i had been developing that for some time but it was very difficult for me to to generate revenue using that company so then i i dropped djing i started pushing aside virtual spaces and focused on teaching building my own private courses very much following ben burns's model um and that's been extremely helpful but now as i've been putting that on the side virtual spaces is now exploding and so it is a process of me combining the things that i love i am taking the teaching model that ben burns is helping me with and i'm taking my virtual spaces company and i will teach virtual space companies and act as a consultant as well as onboard students that want to become metaverse world building artists and teach them how to do that using my virtual space company right so one of them's put to the side we'll wait for the summer i'll be djing again you know what i mean next next summer maybe next year whatever right and uh and the other two have combined into one so the way i've been basically thinking about it is you know businesses and ideas they take time to grow right so you can have everything in place for you to be able to succeed and you still not succeed because it takes time right it's not like you can just plant a tomato seed into the soil and water it and give it sunlight and eat tomatoes tomorrow you do everything right but then at some point you have to let time take over and so i'll do everything i can i'll plant the seeds i'll water the soil i'll get everything ready i'll get put in the sun but then when it's taking its time to make an impact i switch onto the other foot and i focus on teaching so it's like a right foot left foot right foot left foot and it's like virtual spaces teaching virtual space is teaching and over time these start to become one thing it's like a bicycle now right and and the two the two feet have combined into a single direction where i'm teaching virtual spaces but it's not like you can just throw a hundred hours a week at a project and just have it appear or become successful that much faster things take time even despite how much work and effort you put into them so when the natural lag comes up i switch you said um like back then that you weren't like strong enough to hear matt's words at the time um did anything change or like click in your mind since then like when you decided to pursue virtual spaces and teaching if yeah so if i'm being honest with you i think every single day at least once i had a voice in the back of my mind saying matt was right every day every day i'd be like ah matt was right like every day i had this thought because i was running into the obstacles that he warned me about running into the challenges like and so it was it became easier to drop the djing because he was right and he he he basically said hey your future looks like this and i like i said i i i knew that what he was saying was right but i needed to learn it myself i just and it i don't think you know i'm a teacher as well right so when i teach students things they can either listen to me or they can do their own thing and learn what they were going to learn what i was going to teach them anyway right so i don't mind i don't care how they learn they can either listen to me or they can go face plants and learn it on themselves right but i maybe also as well as a teacher and i'm the old generation passing on knowledge and they're the new generation maybe when i say something that that their gut disagrees with maybe they're right maybe they're the next revolution maybe they're the next innovation of the field of the medium and that they can prove me wrong and if they can do that that's freaking awesome so i sought out even though i knew matt was right i sought out to prove him wrong and if he wasn't wrong then i would prove him right and i would learn the lesson that he was trying to teach me it would come with a bit more sweat and tears but i would learn it nonetheless and so yes now you know to answer your question i think i said i'm i i wasn't mature enough to take in what he was saying right and it's because i knew he was right but there was part of me that was holding on to the adolescent ideal that maybe i'm different that maybe i'm going to revolutionize something maybe i'm going to innovate something and change the status quo and change the paradigm or i'm wrong and i find out but i'd rather find out on my own face than just take someone someone else tells me and then and settle because what if i'm right what if i could be the world's best dj and the world's best virtual space and the world and some teacher that doesn't know anything about this stuff steered me away from greatness of course i wasn't right of course he was right of course that can't be all those things at once right so uh but i i found out through through experience and like i said you know when life corners you into the position where you have to make those decisions the the soundtrack in my mind was just matt's smiling face telling me exactly like what what he knew would happen and it's because he experienced the same thing you know he told me he was a dj a photographer event organizer like yeah yeah we're all we're on a similar path we're gonna find out the same lessons would you have done it differently or would you have done it the same knowing what you know now no i didn't done the same yeah why because if i had been if i had listened to him closer and really taken what he said and drops djing that day and dropped teaching that day or dropped virgil's face if i did isolate it on just one i wouldn't be able to do this alternating right foot left foot system that i have now i i am investing in my teaching skills i am investing in my virtual space building skills at the same time and these are things that are i'm i'm investing into my ability as an artist and my ability to express myself creatively and three years down the road that is going to inform decisions i make while being a dj and as i've been a creative generalist for 15 plus years i have found the tenants of creativity that pierce all of these subjects and i choose to try to master them that that is not a medium specific thing it is not specific to us it is not uh exclusive to a specific domain of creativity that is broader than that it's larger than that but you but i won't be able to achieve mastery in any of these domains unless i exclude the others so i would do it again because my transferable knowledge and my general skills of being creative person across all these different disciplines has helped me spearhead in a way that is very unique do you think like if you were to advise other people on like how to do it do things um would you tell them to like trust their gut and like ignore advice from like a business coach or would you tell them to uh follow their advice i would say that any time any teacher instructor uh coach or any any leader figure in your life tells you something that your gut and heart disagree with disregard disregard what they tell you and go with your gut and your heart and that will lead you to the lessons that you specifically need to learn but if the teacher tells you something that you go oh that sounds right go with that go with that and also i'm speaking to someone who has the luxury of the distance to be able to make those mistakes the luxury of the time to be able to make those mistakes right if you need to make something happen now and someone says this is your quickest path out this is your escape hatch then you should go with that because they're going to be able to help expedite those lessons but if something in your gut tells you this is wrong then you either a have a very personal lesson coming to you from the universe that you specifically need to have or b you're going to innovate and revolutionize and you're going to succeed where your teachers could not that reminds me of like a quote i've heard is like sometimes you need to make the mistake in order to know it's a mistake and like even even then like you learn from it and like you said it will lead you down to the path you're supposed to be on just just to riff off that for a second mistakes are everything you don't get anywhere you don't learn anything without mistakes like mistakes is how you learn stuff it's one thing for me to tell you this is what to do and you to do it and then you know it that's cool that's one level of understanding it's a completely different level of understanding for you to have an idea try it out and have the universe teach you that that's not the way it works right you will know it so much more intimately you will understand it so much better mistakes are way more valuable than successes because mistakes look you can be successful you can try something and succeed at it by luck or by happenstance and or by you don't know why it worked but when you fail you always know why you failed right and so you can get tricked i mean the worst thing that can happen to you is early success right because you go oh i'm the best i my instincts are perfect i know just what to do and then you take all that and you bet more and you lose it that has happened to me right but when you make a mistake you know exactly what went wrong and you can fix that system and you can build on it so mistakes are the money they're the bread and butter they are the tuition that you need to pay in order to achieve the results you want to achieve and good luck is bad luck because if you get good luck you don't know why you're succeeding and you can make the mistake of thinking that it's you think that is that you're the reason why it was successful and it wasn't just the timing was right you know you sold the tickets at the right price you guessed the right thing you had the right speakers some things lined up and you thought you were responsible for it and that it's repeatable and it may not be but when you make a mistake you learn exactly why you made that mistake that's a longer lesson and it will lead to larger success in the future doing everything you're doing now would you say it's fulfilling everything you're trying to fulfill by balancing all the other multiple projects or is there still something that's like missing for you well i i have just moved to this place in my new home and i have been here for two days and it is storming rainforest outside it is surfing down the street i am building a metaverse company in the time that the metaverse is finally understood by the public despite having spent a year building this company when no one knew what the metaverse was upstairs while downstairs i go for a walk on the with the dog towards the beach and it's stormy weather it's beautiful i can't imagine a life better than this one this is exactly what i want to be doing i want to be having a conversation with jonah from the future talking to me about how i got to where i am this could not be a more beautiful moment in my life and the only thing i'm going to try to do is keep this system going do you still miss do you dj at home like to fulfill that void or do you not have that void anymore i don't have that void anymore i will it will come back on um i actually had my last event in october that i was preparing a set list for get cancelled and it was one of the biggest reliefs so i i don't miss it right now it's definitely going to come up it's going to be an itch that i need to scratch but i've i've got it prepared you know i'm ready for it why do you think you were like relieved to have it be cancelled because too many things were popping off at the same time and it was an easy like like like we were talking about earlier you know when there's a lot of opportunity when there's a lot of opportunity for success and it's all coming your way it's quite difficult to say no to things right but the inability to say no to opportunity is an insecurity it's a scarcity mindset that other opportunities won't follow right and and what we need to do is we need to say no as often as possible nothing will give you more opportunity than saying no that's just facts nothing will give you no more money than saying no you know like just a a quick uh real life tangent on why you know uh an anecdotal experience that that verifies that is you know when i was djing every weekend i quit all my job i did every i i walked away from everything in order to become a successful dj i had zero experience djing i just said i'm gonna make it happen or i'm gonna start to death which by the way i started to starve to death right it took some time but that started to happen and i was djing every weekend i was going to every bar i was just laying down tracks and constantly constantly working and it got to the point where i started getting booked more regularly and i started to succeed and the result of that was that people would last minute say hey we need somebody to come dj for us this saturday and i say i i can't i'm booked and they say well how does 200 sound i'm like i no i'm booked well how does 600 sound okay no just made me 400 extra dollars right and if i actually if i actually said no to that other booking which was for like 80 right i would have had that saturday open to say yes to 200. right but so i i if i say no and then no my my pricing goes from 80 to 200 to 600 so no will make you more money than anything else no will give you more opportunities than anything else because people will fight for a yes and when someone says hey would you like to dj for 80 bucks and you're thinking hey that's grocery money and you say yes you sell yourself way way way short dude connor appreciate it man thank you so much brother nice talking to you man thank you thank you so much later