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Morning Rituals

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Chris Do
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March 25, 2019

What's your morning ritual? I think the deeper part of the question is that we need to form habits that are helpful to us.

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What's your morning ritual? Everyone talks about it, but is it really necessary? Let's talk about this, Maya, bring yourself back online. What do you mean? Everybody talks about I didn't know anybody was talking about their morning ritual, and now you're saying everybody's talking about it. Well, that's true. I guess when I'm in the entrepreneur forums or reading books or just listening to certain podcasts, everybody's talking about this fancy morning ritual where they do the gratefulness in the book and then they run and then they do the bulletproof coffee and all these weird things. And it's just never worked for me. I tried it. I was like, this is so stupid. I don't know why I do this. Yeah, because I really it did. It didn't do anything specific for me. I tried the meditation, didn't work. I like hot yoga now. Hot yoga works because that's good, but nothing else specific that they talk about. Just curious if you think I have enough context now. I think when people talk about a morning ritual, they're also asking for that same life hack. If I only did these four things, if I only drank bulletproof coffee, if I only did Pilates in the morning, my life would be totally different. I think everybody is looking for that. But when I think about it, I think the deeper part of the question is this is that we need to form habits that are helpful to us. And we look at our lives today and think. I don't know if my habits are going to create a winner. So we're looking for different habits to model ourselves after. So I'm going to tell you a couple of things and we've talked about this in different groups or in workshops or something. So bear with me. In the morning, if you have a hard time getting up. That's a signal. The signal is. You don't have a goal that's compelling you to get out of bed. That's really what that is. So when you set your alarm and you have to, like, hit the snooze button 35 times, it's because you don't have a better reason to get out of bed than to stay in the comfort part, the comfortable part of your bed. So this is why goal setting is so, so important, because it needs to inspire you, it needs to stir up your emotions, it needs to do all these things. So when you wake up like I got, I got stuff to do because I'm excited. If you think about the things that excite you. You don't have to be told to wake up for that. Do you remember when you were a kid and your mom and dad told you, we're going to go to Disneyland in three days or whatever it's like? Oh, I remember during Christmas. It's like that day could not come early enough, and I was all tingly. And weird on the inside, like, Oh my god, I just can't believe it's almost here. I wonder what sand, it's going to bring me. This is the best day of my life. And it happens. Could you imagine waking up every single day feeling that way, like every morning was Christmas Eve and you're four years old again? What would that be like? And so then I ask you this rhetorical question, how many of you guys who live like that? And I would imagine then very few people would say me, like every single day is like Christmas Eve for me and fill in your holiday, I don't really care. Fill in. Whatever your most favorite thing to do today is hair salon day or nail salon day or whatever it is. I'm going to wow, I'm so excited to get that back. I just can't wait. So now what we need to do is design our life or on a goal. That really compels us to take action. And a lot of us, unfortunately, don't have those kind of goals that are exciting, yeah, they're kind of good. They're OK, I'm going to make $100,000 a day or whatever it is, but those are not the reasons why you get up. So you have to go deeper and deeper, until you find the thing that fills you with joy. Now, luckily for me, I found things all my life to filled me with joy, so I'm very. I just have that momentum built up because I'm just excited to be alive. Now I'm going to sound like a hypocrite because I've told you all to wake up and start to do the gratitude mindset thing where you start thanking people. You write like a love letter or thank you letter in your mind to people so you can fill yourself up with positivity. I don't do that. I don't go back. At the end of the day and I don't do what it is I tell you to do and to reflect, what did I do well, what can I do better? I don't do that because I'm kind of doing that all the time in real time, every single day. So hearing about my morning ritual may or may not help you, but I think at the end of the day, you need to find a goal that you think is worth solving and that's going to get you out of bed every single day and light your butt on fire. And it could be a stack of goals. And do that. And then to break that into smaller, bit-sized pieces, so that momentum will carry you through. So nobody loves going to the gym, just take really small steps. Until you can become excited about it so that you're in it. The hardest part is just getting started. Momentum will carry you the rest of the way. All right, so I'm a if I tell you my morning ritual, Meyer will help you. Ire sorry, if I tell you my morning ritual will help you. Given what you've now said, no, OK. It's interesting you said something earlier that if you just are fired up towards a goal, then the morning ritual kind of takes care of itself. What you said? OK so I don't want to cheat the question. I don't want to cheat it. So I'm going to tell you a little bit about what it is that's going on in my mind that I think can be broadly applicable to each and every one of you. Sometimes I'm in bed and I don't want to wake up. Sometimes I don't want to wake up. I'm like, Chris, you need to sleep. You've only had four or five hours of sleep. Just stay here. But once my eyes open and my mind starts going, I'm like, OK, you know what? I'm just going to check the social feed for a little bit. I budget my time, I'm like, I'm going to just give myself 10 minutes to quickly go through Instagram, YouTube and Twitter, and you know, that's not possible. And then before I know it's like 24 minutes until I'm like, that's it, this is it, I'm done now. I can't go back to sleep. So in a way I trick myself. Now I'm awake what I'm going to do. And as I'm reading this, these comments and responding to people, of course, my head starts filling up with ideas. So I think I need to get up. I need a shower, I need to get ready for the day because I need to get on my computer. I need to write, I need to tweet, I need to prepare something because there's a lot of thoughts bubbling up inside me. So a lot of times I imagine it feeling like a rubber band, and you keep pulling that rubber band back with all the things that you want to do, the things that excite you, even if it's going out to have a nice lunch with friends, whatever it is. And that rubber band keeps getting pulled back. It's becomes really taught. And when I'm ready, I let go and I slingshot out of bed. And this is another reason why my wife freaks out because she'll be sleeping. I'll just jump out of bed. She can't. Can't you just get out like a normal person? I'm like, no. When I'm compelled to get out of bed, I'm ready to go, baby. We got to go. I say, look, whatever you freak goes back to bed. So that to me, I'm like, I'm building it up, I'm building it up and then I'm out of the Runner's block out of the gate. Boom, I'm running, ok? So I think maybe if that helps you try that mental exercise, fill yourself up with something until you feel so inspired. Like I got to get going now. It's like, whoa, I'm really excited about doing what I need to do today. Versus like, Oh my god, I have so much to do, I can't deal with that. I'm just going to sit here.

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